Attachment parenting techniques for yourself, your family, your pets and everyone around you.
We all want to love well. Right from being born we seek attachment and love. Unfortunately we live in a traumatised society and the love we seek is not always available to us. Pan Parenting is an idea that I devised to address the isolation and emotional distress in our children, starting with compassionately parenting ourselves and then extending this sense of compassion and kinship to all those around us. Each one of us has the potential to bequeath a little healing wherever we go and create a better world for our kids to live in.
Pan Parenting is based on the idea of Attachment Parenting and Attachment Villages.
The calmer and happier you are, the less stressed your children are. The key to raising healthy children is a nurturing home and community, but those environments are dying due to a social and economic basis for a culture that disregards the sanctity of parenting.
We are no expected to work long hours, farm our kids out for most of the week into huge peer groups with one adult and no unconditional love. We are not taught how to look after our own emotional needs or heal our own trauma never mind prevent trauma in our children's lives. Science cannot explain the rise of autism, obesity or attention deficit disorders, the rise in self harming, suicidal ideation, gaming, addiction or anorexia but, seeing a lack in attachment and a breakdown in relationships, can.
Dr Gabor Mate, parenting, ADHD and addiction expert said., "The electrical circuitry of a child's brain is programmed by the mother's emotional state".
The same goes for our animals and all the people we come in contact with. I can show you how to recollect your loved ones, achieve peace of mind, change your language and relationships so that connection, attachment and community and love is at the very heart of your existence.
The Attachment Village - It takes a village to raise a child
Parenting doesn't stop at your front door. Once you have parented your own inner child, emotionally collected your children and reestablished the attachment you all deserve then its time to turn to your wider community. Parenting yourself, your pets and your children is too hard to maintain when we are all so isolated from one another.
We evolved in hunter-gatherer tribes where there was alway more that one adult in the form of aunt's, grandparents, cousins and neighbours to watch over the children. They passed down sacred values and culture, extended themselves for the sake of youngster's wellbeing and emotionally and physically supported each other.
Now it seems we cant even ask our neighbour for a spare tea bag and so many of us express disgust at the suffering of the most vulnerable in our society. Villages create connection and support so that we all feel strong enough to lend time and support to the most vulnerable. This is Pan Parenting, looking after our own very needs, through self care, making connections and reaping the benefits for our families and pets. Then we can extend this compassion to the ones that are vulnerable and alone. Communities will thrive and we will have more time to spend with our loved ones, loving well and creating treasured memories.
At the end of it all, when you look back over your life, how do you want to be remembered? Will it be for how much money you made or what you did for a living? Or will it be for how well you loved?